I met a guy one night at a local bar, and we hit it off and spent quite awhile chatting. At one point in the conversation, he referred to someone as “his first wife” — and then quickly backpedaled and said, “I mean my only wife.” I thought he was covering something up, but I had nothing invested in this guy since we’d just met, so I let it go. We decided to meet up again, so I Googled him out of curiosity. Given all of the records one can find online these days, I discovered that there was a woman’s name attached to his phone number. Let’s call her “Sue.” Google told me that “Bob” (not his real name, lol) and “Sue” had the same address and the same phone number. Bob and Sue were listed at the same address on property records as well. (I was definitely NOT stalking, but these days you can never be too careful when meeting a stranger. It’s smart to be safe, IMHO.) Since I was already suspicious from the “first wife” comment, I decided to wait and see if he was forthcoming about his situation on our next date.
Our next date came and went, and still no mention of “Sue”. I even (admittedly sneakily) asked him what his brothers’ and sisters’ names were, in the event that “Sue” was a relative. Turns out, no sisters named Sue. No mom named Sue. And no children named Sue. On a subsequent date, he once again made the gaff of mentioning his “first wife,” at which time I jumped at the chance to say, “Yeahhhh, that ‘first wife’ thing keeps coming up but then you say that there’s really only one wife, and I’m wondering what that might be all about.” He smiled and said, “Oh, you picked up on that, huh? I thought about talking to you about it, but not tonight. The next time we get together I’ll tell you all about it.
Well, the next time came and went and after five hours together — no mention of “Sue.” I didn’t bring it up because I felt that it was his responsibility to explain his situation, as he said he would. I know that he recently moved to a new home, so my guess is that they divorced, sold their marital house and he purchased a new house. At this point I feel he has made a mountain out of what is probably a molehill, and I’m wondering if he’s simply not an honest guy. I do not believe he’s still married, which is what I am expecting your readers to suggest. I’m wondering whether I should continue seeing him and ignore this elephant in the room (who nobody sees but me, apparently) or come right out and demand to know the scoop on “Sue.”
While I don’t expect full disclosure from a guy about every aspect of his life by the fifth date, I do expect that when someone has several “slips of the tongue” that it’s time to fess up. I don’t want to mention the light internet investigating, lest he think I *was* stalking him. Thoughts?

– Inquiring Minds Want To Know, Massachusetts