“ … is it wrong to want to try to meet others as well?”

It’s not wrong to make friends, and if you’re in an open relationship, it might be OK to pursue others.

But before you start with that, decide whether you want to work on your current relationship – because there might be hope for more happiness if you’re both willing to pay attention.

Romantic relationships, like friendships, can get a little stale if there aren’t things to talk about … and if you fail to surprise each other. Small experiences can help; even spending half a day at an art museum, wondering what the other person has to say.

That’s the advice: to put yourselves, together, in places that make you curious. Talk about anything.

If this lack of interest is still a problem over time – if you don’t leave these journeys with memories, inside jokes, and excitement about future plans – it might be time to move on. 

But the goal doesn’t have to be getting back to “exciting.” Frankly, I’d rather have “interesting,” “smart,” or “funny.”