'I asked for their number' and then ... 'radio silence'

Friday | May 1, 2026

Love Letters Dating

‘I asked for their number’ and then … ‘radio silence’

This weekend: tell me what’s on your mind about relationships. Breakups? Friendships? Exes? Send letters to [email protected] or use the anonymous form.

Also, I know you ALL know about the phone booth, but truly, listen to this podcast episode with the messages. You might hear the voices of some letter writers we’ve assisted … and other great things.

I saw someone for a date last year and I really felt like I connected with them more than I had with any other first date.

They told me they were “too busy” at the time, in general, and wanted to see if there was a time in the future we could try again (seems like soft rejection, right? Not into me, duh).

But then, recently, I slid into DMs on their story talking about music, and we struck up tons of conversation about music and arts, and they actually told me they would love to meet up. I then asked for their number to see if we could chat off social and … radio silence.

Do I just give up any hope at this point? Is it always just missed signals or do I directly reach out again and say something?

– Try Again?

You offered this person a way to see you in real life and they did … nothing. They did not send a number. Let it go.

It makes sense that you want to do everything you can to make this work, but they’re not meeting you halfway. They go from enthusiastic to busy to gone. All good, but that’s not what you want.

It’s also possible they’re great when you give them attention on their time, and on topics they choose (music), but you’re supposed to be the center of attention, too. It can’t be about them all the time.

I wish I could tell you that the second this person wanted to send their number, their phone accidentally fell down the toilet, but … I do not believe that’s the case. They’re not taking next steps, for whatever reason.

So frustrating. So annoying. Do disappointing.

Go on more first dates with other people. Maybe by Date 2 or 3 you’ll get that connection. Sometimes it takes a bit.

– Meredith

Readers? Would you follow up with information and a number anyway? What might be happening here?

What’s on your mind about relationships? Breakups? Friendships? Hot person at coffee shop? Send letters to [email protected] or use the anonymous form.

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