Hi there,
There’s a woman in my life – “Cindy” — who is very special to me. We dated for over a year. Even thought it was a long distance relationship, Cindy and I had very strong bond, and intense feelings towards each other. We made it a point to see each other once a month. I live here in Boston and she lives in Detroit. We met on vacation almost 2 years ago and developed a very real, very strong connection to each other.
Last year I started a new job and she was in a very demanding program at school so our opportunities to see each other became few and far between. It had gotten to the point where it had been almost two months since we had gotten together. We both became very frustrated.
During our time together we literally NEVER fought, but one day we got in a disagreement and decided that we can no longer be an a “relationship”… but we continued to talk. Shortly after this “fight,” I had a long weekend approaching during which we had planned to see each other and I booked a plane ticket. About a week before I was supposed to leave she said that “that might not be a good idea” because she had been seeing someone else, but had not been physically involved with him. Well! To tell you the truth, I wasn’t completely surprised. After all, it had been more than two months at this point since we had seen each other — but it was too late for my plane ticket to be refunded.
I was perplexed by the fact that she used the words “together” in referring to him when they hadn’t been physically involved. She said she still wanted to see me but didn’t want to ruin anything that might-be with, let’s call him Dick. I was offended. So I called some of her friends who had been her roommates but moved out for the summer, and filled them in on what had been going on. They thought it was unfair and said that I should go anyways, and that if she really didn’t want to see me, that they would want to see me, and I could crash with them for the weekend. So I went. She never showed at the airport and I was heartbroken. Nevertheless, I had a fun weekend with her friends who helped me deal with what i was going through.
Fast forward six weeks later. After not even one phone call or a message; 2 a.m. on a Friday night i get a text that says, “I miss you,” which was shortly followed by a phone call from her. She told me how much and why she missed me and admitted she had made a mistake. I told her that sorry wasn’t good enough and she needed to prove it. Since then we’ve been trying to work something out for her to come here, but things keep coming up. Legitimate excuses, she has graduation i have to work, she has a wedding blah blah blah. But I have a four-day weekend starting on Friday afternoon, then not another long weekend until Thanksgiving.
At this point we haven’t spent anytime together since spring and were both dying to see each other, even though we know that because of the distance we can never have a REAL, NORMAL relationship. But I’m willing to swallow my pride and go see her be cause it very well could be the last time.
Should I make the trip out to properly end this relationship, or chalk up my experiences up as a loss and move on? I could DEF use some help on this issue before I would be leaving on Friday!

– Lost in Boston