A: What about Chrismukkah?
Sorry. Kidding.
Look, the fact that he’s “great about lots of other things” is probably more important than his treatment of holidays. Still, I understand why his special-occasion-phobia would bother you, especially when it comes to anniversaries. You’d think he’d want to celebrate your success as a married couple. But I get it — some people just can’t deal with obligation, malls, deadlines, and all that comes with holiday festivities.
If your spouse is one of those people – and you’re the opposite – a compromise might be a joint gift. Once a year (pick the most random day possible), both of you choose one gift that will improve your lives as a pair. It could be a vacation, a television, a comfy piece of furniture … an annual splurge that’s a joint investment.
It’ll be fun to work together to pick it out, and you’ll both be able to enjoy the result. Seems like a fair compromise.
On a side note, I’m curious to know how he feels about St. Patrick’s Day. If he spends it anywhere near Guinness, you have my permission to call him a hypocrite.
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— Meredith