Can moving make or break a relationship?

A young adult author moved 10 times in 12 years with his husband. Here's what he learned.

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By Meredith Goldstein

October 11, 2025

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First, a few links.

In Love Letters, a woman wrote in because she’s feeling abandoned by friends and community after having a baby. But I think her question speaks to a greater question about when we can expect people to check in on us.

In The Big Day, this wedding story includes Taylor Swift, Papa Gino’s, and … Delaware.

In GLP-1 news, Kara Baskin – who writes about food, parenting, and mental health (and was super honest about money on an episode of the Love Letters podcast – has been sharing, rather transparently, her experiences on the weight loss drug Zepbound. She’s lost a bunch of weight – and her brain works a bit differently now. She’s talked about what it’s been like – and how it’s changed her. This is her recent wrapup, which is a very raw look at the experience.

Moving baggage

There’s a new episode of the Love Letters podcast today, and it’s all about moving.

I’ve always wanted to do an episode about how moving affects people in relationships. I’ve also wanted secrets from movers because they see people in their rawest forms.

Movers witness separations and people moving in together for the first time. They help single people get belongings into a fabulous new house, or downsizing people figure out their first few hours in a new space.

To be a mover, you have to be able to read a room.

Today’s episode has two parts. Part one features Kamaul Reid, owner of Rare Movers in Boston. He has a lot to say about his experience in other people’s relationships.

Part two features young adult author Adam Sass, who has moved with his husband 10 times in 12 years.

TEN TIMES in TWELVE YEARS. By choice.

That’s so many times.

There was a good reason for every move, but as the locations added up, so did the stress and frustration. Adam comes on the episode to tell us what he’s learned about moving around … and when to sit still.

Please enjoy.

This is Adam, during one of his many moves.

For those who’ve done a lot of big moves: If you have moving tips for singles and couples you’d like to share – about how not to get frustrated and take it out on others (or yourself) – send me a tip by responding to this email.

Love across lines

Speaking of podcast episodes, journalist Mya Guarnieri, who appeared on the podcast last season, had a book launch on Sept. 30. Her memoir, “Crossing the Line: An Israeli-Palestinian Love Story,” is about how she (an American-Israeli Jewish person) fell in love with her Palestinian colleague, and how they navigated their communities.

It’s a big story about history – and the state of the world – but also a small one about the connection between two people.

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Hole in one

I plan to do a guide to $10 dates soon. We all need ideas for cheap dates – for romance, for friends, for ourselves. (And if you’re looking for fall date ideas, Kelly Chan, our newsletter producer, put some together for you.)

One activity I will be including is a place with sushi donuts I visited over the weekend. Locals: It’s called One Bite and Bar, and it’s in Cambridge.

I’ll leave you with a pic (excuse my poor food photography skills, as usual). Each sushi donut was $4.95. On the top was a “sushi taco,” which was $7.95.

— Meredith