‘I wouldn’t kiss that mouth’: Our favorite Love Letters comments

Here are some of the comments that stuck with us over the past month.

By Meredith Goldstein

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I was on Boston Public Radio last week, and one of the first things hosts Jim Braude and Margery Eagan wanted to talk about was the letter from the person whose husband wasn’t brushing his teeth.

They were mystified by this, and we talked about it for a long time. (You can find the recording of that part of the their episode here. It’s a nice listen).

I explained to Jim and Margery that commenters were also mystified by the lack of brushing.

We all had theories about why a person might not want to brush before bed. Some were emailed to me privately.

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But one commenter said what we were all thinking. No matter what led to the lack of oral self-care: “I wouldn’t kiss that mouth.”

Here’s a roundup of some other memorable comments from April. Remember, I’m always ready for more letters. Get great advice by submitting here or emailing [email protected]. Yes, it’s anonymous.

5. ‘Should I pretend to love my husband?’

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“You worry about destroying the life you have built and yet you dread the rest of your life with him. What have you built that’s worth preserving, exactly? Because I don’t see it in the letter. If the fear is that the disruption of divorce will bring discomfort and tension, I don’t think that’s a good enough reason to stay with someone. He’s excited for this new phase, but I doubt he’d be excited if he actually knew how you felt. If you go through therapy and do find that you have simply fallen out of love and there’s no coming back from it, it would be cruel to force him into unwittingly living a lie just so that you can avoid the discomfort that comes with divorce.”

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4. ‘My husband isn’t brushing his teeth‘

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“I never understand why some people refuse to do simple things to make themselves more appealing to their partners. I don’t know what your husband’s issues are, only that he’s being a jerk. I wouldn’t kiss that mouth. Ugh.”

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3. ‘Do I have to tell her I had a one-night stand with our mutual friend?’

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“Choosing to have sex, even if it’s a drunken fling, is such a personal decision. It really bothers me that this guy is even considering outing the other woman’s personal sexual information in wanting to reveal that he had sex with her. Be a grown adult and let it go.”

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2. ‘She left me for someone from Instagram’

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“I think you didn’t propose because you just weren’t sure about the relationship. Your delay turned out to be correct. You’ll get a lot of advice today but I would say focus on this….that you sent a thank you note to someone who hurt you in vicious way. Don’t be a doormat. Get back to work, it’s important in so many ways including self-esteem, distraction, and meeting a new partner. Her relationship with the new guy will fizzle and hopefully when she comes back you’ll be in a new relationship.”

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1. ‘Saw my friend’s wife on an app’

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“I was in a similar situation in my 20s. I saw a photo of a very close friend’s boyfriend with another woman I knew from college and confirmed he dated her. I ended up telling my close friend. I thought if it were me, I would want to know. She confronted him, they talked it out, and got engaged. The day before the wedding, he backed out. My point is that my telling her made no difference. I would not say anything. It’s also possible the profile is old and she just never took it down.”

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