Apps might not be for you.

Perhaps it would be better to find a volunteer opportunity or club within your place of worship. Maybe you’d meet like-minded friends there – and some guys.

I do wonder if there are groups within your community that get young people together for social events. Yes, I said “young.” You’re still that.

The thing is, though, after reading your letter, my first thought was, “I want her to do things that make her feel excited about herself.” You list a bunch of reasons you might not be desirable as a partner. But what if you believed you were interesting and cool? What if you felt like great company?

How do you gain that self-confidence? Keep yourself busy. To start, it might be nice to learn to drive. Not just to meet men in other places, but to have a few adventures with friends, family, and even yourself. 

There are a bunch of other activities you could pursue to enrich your life, but driving is a practical one. Taking a class that stimulates your desire for education is another. You don’t need a college degree to find a partner, but it’s nice to feel like you’re engaged in the world and have plenty to say.

If you spend some time treating yourself to new experiences, you might have a better time dating. At the very least, you’ll have other things to think about.

– Meredith

Readers? Any thoughts on where to meet like-minded people? Other thoughts for this letter writer?

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