I’ve run into the same problem for a long time now, especially since the introduction of dating sites like POF (PlentyOfFish) and Tinder. Why do girls find it easier to drop communication and ignore someone instead of telling a guy she is no longer interested or that something in her life has changed (new boyfriend, job, etc.)? What’s the trick to just taking the hint, swallowing your pride, and moving on without receiving an explanation?

This seems to happen regardless of whether there’s been a simple online conversation or a few seemingly great dates. I am a pretty straight-forward guy when it comes to dating and liking a girl. I don’t play games and if I’m interested, I’ll let you know. If I am not, I will be honest in a respectful manner. I want the same respect in return. Nine times out of 10, I am intelligent enough to know when I should “take the hint,” but more often than not the “hint” is shown by sudden silence. I am not overbearing in my attempts to reach out, but at that point, it’s almost as if any attempt is one too many and I turn them off completely.

It’s hard to tell whether there is something about the way I interact that causes the disappearing act or if there’s something in female DNA that tells them it’s just easier this way.

At the end of the day, it is much easier to be told they’re no longer interested, for whatever reason, and move on.

Thanks for the advice.

– They fall off the planet, Hampstead, N.H.