What kind of distance are we talking about here? If you live in Boston and he’s on the Vineyard, go back.

If we’re talking Rhode Island to Chicago (sorry, Rhode Island is on my mind because of yesterday), it’s still worth a trip.

Multiple countries? Maybe not. 

The point is: consider what’s possible and ask for what you want. You can tell him you’d be interested in extending your vacation connection for another weekend, whenever it works for both of you. 

It wouldn’t be about starting some big relationship; you’d simply like to see how it feels to enjoy each other for a few more days.

If he likes that idea, fantastic. If not, decide whether you need a pen pal-like friend right now. You don’t have to listen to him talk about his day (or his dating life) like you’re some friend from summer camp. Voice notes can be a lot! You have to stop what you’re doing, listen, and acknowledge the information in some way.

You can’t keep that up forever without a plan for more.

I think that’s how you can avoid getting too attached. Things either progress and become more fun for you, or they fade away. You can respond less.

Last thought: good for you for your boldness on vacation. Taking the time to swipe, communicate, meet up in person, and connect to another human … it’s an effort. May we all have the will to bring that kind of energy to our real lives.

– Meredith

Readers? How can this letter writer avoid getting attached? Is it too soon to ask for a visit? Thoughts on voice memos as communication?