Some time ago, I set up a profile for myself on Match.com. I got a wink from this guy. He lived in my area. He looked interesting, so I sent him a note and I introduced myself. We messaged a few times and then he sent me his number and said we could text. We texted back and forth for weeks and then we had our first date. The reason there was a delay for that first date was that he had been working out of town for a few weeks (that is what he told me). He moved in with his parents after he finished that job. He told me that since he lived in a valley (in his parents’ house), he couldn’t get a signal on his cell phone so he had to go up a hill to call me. I asked him why didn’t he call me on the landline and he said he didn’t have a landline.

Anyway, I had my first date with him – a movie. He had to go to the bathroom twice (the first time was halfway through the movie, and the second time was at the end of the movie). I’m not sure if these two bathroom trips were a bad sign, but I just thought maybe he did have to go to the bathroom. After he came out of the bathroom the second time, we walked outside and I told him to feel free to text me. So he texted me that night when I got home and said that he had good time and wanted to see me again. 

For the next three weeks, he called and texted. A few times he asked me if I would like to go out again, and I told him yes and then I asked him what day. This is when he started talking about something else. He never came back and answered with a day or time. I became very confused. After three weeks, he still continued to call and text me, and a few times he asked me about going out again and I told him yes, but then when I asked what day he told me we should just play it by ear.

Let me add that during some of these calls, he had his two nephews with him when he went outside to call me. And when they are with him, he talks very little to me on the phone and he is mostly talking to them. Eventually, the communication ended when he sent me a text telling me his phone got disconnected, and he left his mailing address telling me to write him. I left my mailing address and told him to write me. So a few days later I got a letter from him in my mailbox, and then I mailed him a letter. After that, I didn’t hear back from him. I don’t understand why he called me and texted me for three months after the first date if he didn’t want a second date. What was the point of all of this? Why would someone call and text someone for three months if they didn’t like someone?

– Three Months