My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost two years, and things are, in my mind, incredibly bad right now. We began our relationship very quickly, and not long after our previous relationships. After just weeks we basically moved in together. From the start, we’ve been very much in love. She’s 32 and I’m a few years younger. She has a young child I absolutely adore. In past relationships, she cheated (and was cheated on), but she has been open with me about that.

We have had our fights, which I thought were normal in a healthy relationship, but they seem to get worse. She has trust issues and I feel like it’s the source of our problem. Sometimes my reaction is unhealthy, though, because she accuses me of things that 100 percent percent do not exist. I get upset because there’s nothing to worry about. I literally do not speak to any women in a manner to make them feel wanted by me. I don’t receive any texts calls or contact from women because I have made my priorities very clear to any and everyone.

Recently she accused me of cheating, saying I was using a mutual friend as a cover. That infuriated me because it wasn’t the first time that’s happened, and I give her absolutely no reason to believe I would do something like that. Why would she be like this? Is it a guilty conscience? Is it her past that haunts her?

I also worry about sex. Sometimes I initiate it more than she does, and then she feels pressured, so I wait until there’s mutual desire. But after a week or two, she gets upset that I haven’t asked. How do I eliminate this lose-lose situation?

– Accused