Pre-Vacation Updates

It’s supposed to snow this weekend, which means tonight is the night to get out of the house. Come and bring friends to the Love Letters party at the MFA. There will be a bar. Before the long weekend, here are updates. I need letters, so please send along some new ones. This as an update from a letter writer who wasn’t getting any. Meredith, About 2 1/2 years ago I wrote you a letter about my girlfriend and the lack of sexual anything in our relationship. I was amazed — I still am amazed — that it was the top letter for 2012 (I think that was the year). I thought I would send you an update. I decided that not long after I wrote that letter that maybe I should accept her feelings. Perhaps I would learn something about myself in the process, and she would feel more comfortable with me because there would be no pressure. We also had a long talk soon after that was both contentious and, ultimately, accepting. And so here we are, still happily together after four-plus years and we both are very happy where things are sexually. As this is not the Penthouse Forum, there is no need to spill out everything, but just note that time and comfort do work. Perhaps most people could not wait as long as I did, but I (surprisingly, upon reflection) accepted it and I am a better person for it because everything else has worked out very well. This relationship has made me learn a lot about myself, that is for sure. In my previous letter, I said that I was worried about there being a lack of physical interest. That has not happened at all. I will be buying an engagement ring soon, and I am very glad that it all (seemingly) worked itself out in the end. So, thanks for letting me vent on that day. There is so much that we have continued to learn about each other, which is what a good relationship should be, right? This is an update from a recent letter writer who has already moved on. After I wrote and sent the letter, it was pretty clear to me what I needed to do. I went home and broke up with him. It is for the best. He really said nothing and packed up his stuff and moved right out (I knew he could do it in less than two hours from past experience, so I left for two hours and had him move out!). To the people who wondered if there was something leading up to him moving out, there really wasn’t. No change in behavior, nothing! Those who offered constructive advice, thank you! Now the only thing I’m heartsick over is the consignment price I’m going to get for those stupid golf clubs! Not-a-golfer