I’ve done a lot of listening to that Blake Shelton song for this letter and … well, if we are to take this song as a very literal, musical version of how your ex felt the moment you told him you were dating someone new … maybe he was OK with it? Maybe not.

The song seems to be about him (Blake Shelton) making peace with his ex finding someone new because he (the aforementioned Shelton) is learning to spend time by himself. Similar to “thank u, next,” by Ariana Grande.

Not to be confused with Cher’s “I Found Someone,” a song I still love, one that is very good for karaoke. (Young people who’ve never heard of it, please listen to that song.)

This analysis proved that communicating by song doesn’t say much (assuming it’s not your own song), and that yes, you should absolutely ask this man if he wants to try romance again now that there’s less distance between you. Say the words, even if it feels awkward.

He will give you an answer (hopefully), one not in song, and then you can make decisions accordingly. If he’s vague about it, consider it a no.

We’ve had a lot of recent letters from people who are trying (and failing) to guess someone else’s intentions. They ask me to guess, even though I’ve never met the person. In some cases, it’s because the ex/crush they care about has ghosted and it’s unclear why. Your person is checking in daily. What a gift – you can ask whatever you want.

Get to it.

– Meredith

Readers? Time to ask? Song thoughts?