After a year of long-distance dating (we met online), including monthly visits, my boyfriend moved here from out of state. He said he would give it a year to see if he could handle being away from family. He got a job here immediately, which he hated from the start.

Four months later, he came home and announced he’d quit his job, taken back his old job in his home state, and told them he’d be there in three weeks. I was so hurt and angry that he would make this decision without me that I said: “Why wait three weeks? Get the [expletive] out.” And he did.

While I don’t think a committed partner would have done this, I feel guilty that maybe I overreacted and drove him out. Even then, I gave him the opportunity to reconsider, but his mind was made up. He said it was just like he was being deployed. He expected me to wait for him to come back in another year.

By the way, he could have afforded not to work for several months and stayed to chill and get his head together, including taking several nice vacations we had planned. I think he just got homesick and bailed at the first chance he got. My telling him to get out made it that much easier for him. Thoughts?

– Gone