Love Letters: She Thinks I’m ‘Mr. Tinder’

Thursday | November 6, 2014

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Love Letters: She Thinks I’m ‘Mr. Tinder’

Thanks for chat yesterday. In other news, this might break our record for shortest letter. Still, I feel like I know him …

Meredith,

I have recently become obsessed with the dating app Tinder. People at work have even started to call me “Mr. Tinder.” Now, I do enjoy it very much, but recently I have found the girl of my dreams, and guess what — she works at my office.

The dilemma is that I don’t know how to convince her that I’m not just the “Tinder guy.” Do I ask her out for coffee? Or lunch? Maybe even bring lunch to her desk? What do I do?

– Struggles, Brighton

First, stop talking about Tinder at work. If you don’t want to be Mr. Tinder, don’t act like Mr. Tinder.

Second, behave like a human. Get to know this woman and show her who you really are. Maybe grab a drink with her and some other coworkers on a Friday evening. Maybe ask her about her weekend just to find out what she likes to do.

Don’t try to woo her. Just ask questions, make plans, and listen. When you’re confident that she understands that you’re more than just Mr. Tinder, you’re allowed to ask her out.

Readers? How can he lose this questionable reputation? Lunch to her desk?

– Meredith

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