Hi Love Letters,

I met a Jewish man through friends who know him through medical school. We immediately hit it off and had crazy chemistry. We would talk about a number of things, including being in relationships. I remember him mentioning that his family would want him to marry a Jewish girl, but he said he wasn’t concerned about it because he didn’t feel close to marriage.

We hung out a couple of times but he tried to sleep with me over and over and I wasn’t having it because I wanted something more. Eventually I gave up on him because I felt he had his mind too set on sleeping around.

During our break from school I was prepared to not hear from him because we both went back to our hometowns. Toward the end of the summer he began texting me anytime he was back in our school area because I did not live far away. I met up with him once every couple of weeks and we went out and had fun and then would go home together and mess around but never have sex.

He always acted very territorial and like a boyfriend when we were out together in front of all of his school friends. In the beginning of this semester we got a lot closer and I really started liking him a lot. I thought maybe he had started to come around about a relationship. After an awesome weekend together when we got extremely close, he told me that we could never go beyond what we are right now. He said that I make him happy and that he wants to date me but he can’t because we could never get married. He said his family and community would excommunicate him.

He wanted to continue seeing each other but I told him there was no point and that I did not want to get hurt. After we parted ways we continued to text as friends. He recently told me that he still wants to see me and tried to flirt over text almost two weeks later. I don’t know what to do because I really like him but don’t want to waste my time and end up getting hurt in the end. Thinking about the future, I would not mind raising my children as Jewish and being involved in the Jewish faith.

Is there any way that we could actually be together with hope of a future?

– The Lonely Shiksa