Hi Meredith,

I have been dating a guy for about two months. At first he texted everyday, called me beautiful, and made frequent plans with me. We spent a fair amount of time together even though both of us traveled and had busy summer schedules.

Now we are both back around and I can only manage to see him once a week, usually at my initiating. I like him a fair amount and have tried to not be overly needy or pushy. But it seems to have cooled a bit and I am not sure what I did wrong. I mentioned to him that he could call me when he wants to see me and his response was, “Of course I want to see you!”

I suppose I am just feeling self-conscious because I am so unsure about where we stand. We have discussed that we are not sleeping with other people, but the emphasis was that that it didn’t have to be a bigger conversation, just that I thought I had a right to know. Now I find myself just hoping he will reach out and he tends not to.

Should I give it more time or is he pulling the slow fade away? Should I try and get an answer? Or just let it be? If it all dissolves I will certainly be disappointed and hurt, but I am very unclear about where I stand and what I should do.

– Stuck on Pause, Boston