Hi Meredith,

About a month ago I went on a date with a guy I met on OKCupid. We texted for a week (A LOT) before we met up and I really thought he was going to be something special. I liked how driven, smart, and funny he was. And from pictures, he looked really cute. The date was … well, what a first date should be like. We were both nervous but happy to be there and just trying to see what we thought of one another.

Within a matter of minutes, it was VERY clear that he was really into me. Touching my arm, rubbing my leg, and even kissing me on the cheek a couple of times at the bar. Now, I’m not a complete prude, but I just felt like this was a little much for someone I had just met. It was definitely a turnoff for me. However, the major turnoff were his love handles and … man boobs.

Ugh. I’m almost ashamed to even say that because I have body issues of my own (what girl doesn’t?), but it was an even bigger turnoff than his forwardness at the bar. We parted ways later that night and the next day he couldn’t stop gushing about how “perfect” the date was. I couldn’t stop thinking about how I wasn’t attracted to him physically though. I told him I wasn’t ready to start seeing someone and he was devastated. He has tried reaching out a couple times since then but I’ve ignored him.

However, I can’t stop thinking about him … mainly the “him” before I actually met him. Should I give him another chance?

– I Don’t Know What to Think, Medford