Hi Meredith,

I am a longtime reader of Love Letters. I think I need a wake-up call from you and your readers.

I am friends with a woman I see at business/industry events. Friendship was immediate and easy and we could talk about anything. We are both married — me for more than 20 years and happily, and her for more than 10 but her marriage is so-so. We spent a lot of time talking about it. Long story short, we kissed one night. But we both stopped it there physically and that was the extent of it. Since that night, our communication has been sporadic (mostly text, which she loves and I am not a fan of), and the few times we’ve seen each other, she seemed uncomfortable.

I wish we could talk things through. She does not seem to be able to have a full conversation about what happened. I have no problem acknowledging that we have obvious feelings for each other but both realized we can’t pursue it. I get frustrated as I feel like she wants to occasionally text to know that I am still around but I miss our friendship and the ease of our conversations.

I feel stupid that we might have blown a friendship over a kiss. I try to be respectful and polite when she texts, but I am a talker and feel we need to get everything on the table to pick up the friendship we had. Am I delusional thinking that is possible?

– Gotta Get Out Of My Head in Bedford