Jealous Of His College Friend

Monday | April 9, 2018

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Jealous Of His College Friend

Dear Meredith,

I am currently in a three-year relationship and everything is great. I have no issues with my significant other … but one day he told me that he would be seeing a friend from his college years. He told me he’d courted this girl, but she wasn’t interested. They’ve been friends since then, and the girl is in a relationship right now.

Still, I am kind of jealous thinking about how they will go out together – just the two of them. Am I just overreacting? I do not want to disclose my feelings of jealousy to him because I’ve told him about these kinds of feelings before. Should I talk to him about it? What should I do?

– Jealous

Here’s a thing to know: Jealousy is a pretty normal and common feeling. It’s OK to experience it – as long as you don’t take it out on yourself or anyone else. It’s totally normal to feel a little strange about your partner seeing a woman he once courted. Why wouldn’t you?

You can experience bad feelings and move on from them by reminding yourself that if your partner was interested in a cheat, he probably wouldn’t be telling you about his history with this woman. He’s being transparent, and that’s pretty great. You’re in the loop, which says a lot about your relationship.

I’m sure you’ve been on plenty of outings with people who make your significant other jealous. Just take a deep breath – and keep your brain busy with other things. Instead of talking about it, give the air time to something else.

– Meredith

Readers? Does this require a talk?

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