Hi Meredith,

I have been talking to this guy I met on a dating website for over a year now. We went on one date, hung out a couple of times, but he was so busy at the time that it was bound to be just that. I guess you could say I turned into “crazy girl” because I got impatient, therefore he realized he was no longer interested in dating me.

However, we have been texting daily. He has offered me lots of advice, and has been available whenever I need someone to talk to. He really has helped me considerably over a year, even though I never see him. Yes, I have been texting someone for over a year who I don’t come in contact with.

Anyway, the issue I am having now is that every now and then when he is single we will “sext” and send videos, pictures, Skype tease, anything. He loves to hear about my experiences with other guys because I guess in a way it makes him jealous. It’s almost like he lives vicariously, which is frustrating. I know he wants me, and he knows it’s mutual.

I have asked him what he has against actually hooking up or seeing me, and he usually changes the subject or says “we will see.”
I guess I don’t understand what he thinks he’s jeopardizing if all we do is text anyways? Am I dumb for always letting him come back and tease me?

– Teased and Not Pleased