I have not seen “Sirens” on Netflix. Readers, if you’ve seen the show, feel free to chime in with some context.

Now for your questions.

First, do not assume that people who meet and fall in love in high school feel 17 forever. I bet that many of them would tell you they feel 70 at 50. Being around my high school community makes me feel … old (in a very nice way).

Second, I don’t think there’s anything bad about being with someone who makes you feel young.

The issue here is the affair of it all. Your high school guy’s wife tried to participate in this connection, but shut it down. Now you and your ex are sneaking around. It’s probably not the kind of relationship you want right now. 

Or maybe it is. Perhaps you love sneaking around. Hooking up with a person once a week – in a very exciting way – might your ideal relationship setup.

I can’t tell if you wish this man were your real partner. You don’t say whether you spend long, lonely nights wishing you could be by his side.

If you do wish for a stronger and closer romantic connection, this affair might be more about inertia than being frozen in time. Finding a real partner would require looking for one and doing the hard work to bond. Maybe you keep showing up for this one man because it feels easy.

If you enjoy your arrangement – and don’t mind the ethical mess of it all – I don’t know what to tell you.

But if you want a relationship that’s yours, I can only say that this man isn’t the only person capable of making you feel like you’re in your prime. Most people feel younger, more attractive, and energetic when they meet someone who interests them. You can get that from another human.

– Meredith

Readers? Is this about feeling young again? Is it about what’s easy? Could it be love that has lasted over years?

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