I’m a college student here in Boston. I’ve been in a relationship with a loving boyfriend. Everything went well at the start, but then there were problems. I am diagnosed with major depression disorder and on medication, which is hard on him. Do you think my boyfriend is obligated to be my caregiver? If he isn’t, should I leave him?

We have technically broken up. Not long ago, I kicked him out of my place because he’d been staying there for two consecutive months and I really need my personal space. More importantly, I don’t want to be the center of his world. I want him to spend time with his family and others.

Back to the part where I kicked him out. I told him to go home because he needs to be with family and I need space, but he ignored me and continued staying, so it left me with no choice. I just exploded a few days after and kicked him out of the house. Since then, we’ve not talked, and when I reached out he said I treated him like horribly. But shouldn’t the fact that I drive him to and from work be something he’s grateful for? We’ve been squeezed into my tiny room on a twin memory foam topper. He doesn’t help with any house chores and really makes my place like his own. His things are occupying a lot of space, which bothers me as I’m a very neat and tidy person.

He said that I’m a terrible person, which is the first time I’ve heard that from anyone. I don’t know why, but the whole thing is my fault, according to him. What I want is to have a healthy relationship where both of us could have our own personal space and not be together 24-7. I feel like my personal space is invaded and it is very bad for my mental health, as socializing drains me and I need more time to recharge.

Am I being unreasonable for kicking him out of my house after two months of him staying at my place?

– Personal Space