My suggestion is to do some driving (or commuter railing), if possible. If you feel limited by geography, join an activity that brings you somewhere new. If it helps, ask a friend to come with you. Carpooling is nice.

I’m not saying that going from Marion to Falmouth will change your life (just naming some towns here). But … it’s been an isolating year and a half, and even traveling a new street might give you more hope for who exists in the world.

Similarly, I’d expand the range on your dating app. Yes, some people on those platforms will be liars and catfishishers, and that’s why it’s good to ask for a Zoom, at the very least, within the first few messages. But real people are on apps. And I bet there are a bunch of city people who wouldn’t mind a drive to a water-adjacent place for some nice company.

I know I’m not offering a magic solution. Unfortunately, there isn’t one. It’s about asking people for help (set-ups, etc.), continuing to search (and take breaks), and doing your best to enjoy everything else about your life. Finding companionship in other ways – platonic ways – helps too.

Also, I’ve heard multiple stories about people being catfished by men who said they were “gold miners.” Curious to know what stories you (or anyone else) hears from the impostors. Feel free to share – as a public service.

– Meredith

Readers? New ideas?