I understand that the heart wants what it wants (songs have told me this), but please take a moment to think about why this guy is your choice for a boyfriend. Make a list if you can.

Then consider my counterpoint argument.

He keeps pushing you off, he’s hot and cold, he lies, there are issues with substance abuse that have affected your almost-relationship, and a lot of what he offers is “eventually” – which seems to never come.

You’ve imagined later as something wonderful, and I’m sure that for every day you wait, your fantasies becomes that much more exciting. But for now, that future is fiction. You’re writing it, so it can look any way you want.

I know this is hard to hear, but if he’s “not feeling it” after two seasons, there is no guarantee he ever will. Also, it would be nice to be with someone who’s excited to be with you. You want someone who feels it – and can’t wait.

Think about what it would look like to move on. What would that require? How could you fill the time you spend thinking about him with other, more available people and activities? Start prioritizing now over later.

Summer is right around the corner. You don’t need him to be part of it.

– Meredith

Readers? Advice for a young letter writer?