It’s odd.

I’m surprised he didn’t try to explain it away when you confronted him. As in, “Oh, sorry, I bought this underwear for my significant other and must have left it behind.” 

I guess he wanted to make it clear: “Those panties are from me. As a gift. An opened gift.”

If this was his way of saying he loved your night out, and would like another, what an uncomfortable, confusing way to send the message.

I can’t read minds, guess people’s intentions, or know whether they’re dangerous, but I can say this was inappropriate. Imagine bringing underwear to a collaborative work space, or to a shared office.

This made you feel unsteady in your own home. You told your son because you needed someone else to know.

You could talk to this man about his motives, and explain why it wasn’t OK, but this is a project-to-project relationship, right? He’s not part of an ongoing contract, I assume.

There are many handymen in your area, I would think. Try someone new, whenever you need help.

The next person might be less affordable, but will hopefully arrive with no packaged undergarments whatsoever.

– Meredith

Readers? Any reason to talk this through? Is it your assumption that this was a request for another night out? Ever had upsetting interactions like this? Can you explain how you got through it?