I have been with this guy for six years and I moved with him across the US. We were about to break up our first year — because I found him on an online dating service — but then we worked things out. Then I moved a year later. Things were going great, but then I was pressuring him about getting married. He took me to a bar and told me he didn’t want to get married right now. He said, “When I’m ready I’ll let you know.” I said OK but I was hurt.

Things were going well again, but then I found him on another dating site. We argued about it and then he deleted it. I’ve found out that when he’s out, he tells girls that he is single. He would get text messages from girls and I would see them, and they would be simple messages, but when I asked him about them, he told me he has known them for years. I don’t believe him.

I just recently caught him having a sexual conversation with a friend who is married. I still have a screen shot of the message. He apologized to me. Again, I thought things would be OK. Then, on Saturday, I turned my back and saw that he was messaging her — but then he claimed he was calling his son. I know he wasn’t. He erased her messages. I have not talked to him about this because every time I try, he makes these sounds and avoids everything, and I tell him that he put himself in the situation and that he needs to deal with it. I love him very much and care for him, but the trust is kind of gone. We laugh all the time and hang out all the time. We are pretty much joined at the hip. I am really confused about what to do. I think I know what to do but scared. HELP!!

– Confused, Daytona