Does he like anyone’s non-bikini photos? If a friend from college makes a nice sourdough bread and posts that pic, does he ever give it love? I’m asking you to look at the bigger social media picture here. If he’s scrolling through thousands of photos to find bikini pics, that’s weird. But if he’s just someone who likes a lot of stuff, my reaction is: whatever.

The thing is, Instagram is a place for validation. I notice that when I post a pic of myself, which I always feel weird about, it gets four times as many likes as the pic I take of some random tree I think is cool, even though I am far more invested in the pic of the tree. But I think people like validating others, especially when they get to see their faces (and more).

Also, you’ve been together a year. What a year it’s been! Instagram is a portal to elsewhere, it’s can be a way to see friends – to see anyone. He might just be liking life outside of isolation.

Focus on his behavior in the real world. If you feel less than worthy because he seems more interested in his phone than you, have that conversation. If you feel insecure because of something other than Instagram, say what you mean. No hints.

– Meredith

Readers? Bikini photos? Weird?