Think about whether you actually want to go out with this person. Not all crushes are meant to be pursued. If you enjoy talking about him with friends more than you imagine speaking to him, consider the goal here.

If you do, in fact, want to learn more about him, please know that your biggest concern shouldn’t be rejection. Because you can get over that. The bigger issue is how to approach this man without making his gym time uncomfortable. Working out is part of his routine; he’s there with consistency because he likes the experience. For that reason, I would not jump to asking him out. I’d start with simple conversation to see if he’s open. Give him the chance to engage – or walk away.

Is there anything you can ask him about? Any benign conversation worth having?

Worth noting: his predictable schedule does not mean he has a partner “keeping him on lock.” But you know that. Your schedule sounds pretty consistent, too.

– Meredith

Readers? Once again, how and when does one pursue a gym crush?