Prioritize making friends in Boston. It’s not the easiest thing to do, but it’s possible.

Go to events, join clubs, maybe try a community sports group. Volunteer for organizations that host get-togethers for everyone who helps out. That’s the big goal – to find new community here.

As for everyone at home, invest in the people who welcome your attention. If some say they it’s too hard to be in touch, don’t force it. If one friend is supportive, give them your love. Ask them questions about life at home. Share your new experiences and invite them to visit.

This shouldn’t feel like fighting. It should feel like love.

Also know that the cadence of communication might be different. Sometimes I talk to a random friend from home more often than my very best friends from that era. It’s not because I love my closest friends any less. It’s all about who has time – and who is going through a similar experience. In fact, that might be part of your issue – the shared journey. Do you have an old friend who also moved out of town? If so, reach out to them. You can talk about how it feels to go elsewhere.

Make sure you’re asking friends about their lives as you talk about your own. Your Boston world is new and fabulous (I hope). But part of being a good friend is remaining curious about what’s happening when you’re not there.

– Meredith