We’re empty nesters. Now what?
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Q.
We have two children, both adults. They have moved on with your lives and I couldn’t be happier. I have no clue what to do now that its just us.
Should I join a book club or something? I feel like that what people do when they are older and have time on their hands. HELP!
– Just Us
A.
Things I would do if I had all the time in the world (and a little bit of money):
1.Take walks in new places. 2. Do cross-stitch, which I haven’t done since I was about 7, but I’d find a pattern that makes something dirty or weird. 3. Do a full day at a movie theater. Really, in winter, I could do three movies in a row. 4. Volunteer. I’d pick two organizations and show up once a week for each. 5. Yes, I’d also join a book club. Or start one.
Things I would do if I were married and wanted to connect with my partner as empty nesters? Most of the things on that list, but with company. Cross-stitch is the only solitary activity.
I’d also plan some day trips. Maybe I’d make a list of things we always wanted to do – and then start getting them done.
Ask how all of this is going for your partner. Know that for some, this is an easy adjustment. Regardless, it’s nice to check in – and wonderful if the two of you can start making new plans.
This is a great time to date all over again.
– Meredith
Readers? What’s your list? Advice on making sure you stay connected to a partner after kids are out of the house?
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