I come from that part of the world where engagements and marriages are often arranged. I got engaged to my fiancé after we got along really well, with the consent of my parents. Four moths into the relationship, we were in love with each other. Around the eight month mark we started having disagreements about the wedding. She wanted to delay the wedding until after she was done with her postgraduate work, which would have taken three or more years. I wanted a wedding as soon as possible, with us studying together after marriage.

This led to shouting matches, however we made up soon afterwards. After a few months, the disagreements continued, and after a terrible fight over an inappropriate joke I made, she confessed that her feelings for me were ending. Still, we managed to sort things out, but her behavior did not show it. She started being distant and has barely talked to me for the past few months.

Our mutual friend had an engagement the last month. She went ahead and told her to not invite me to the engagement party as things were not working out between us and that her mother did not want this relation to continue. Needless to say, I found out, and this led to yet another fight, after which she blocked me everywhere and said it was over. She has not blocked me on her phone, and the weird thing is her parents and family are still on good terms with me. In this part of the world, if you end an engagement, the families need to involve and inform each other. There has been silence from both my fiancée and her family. I am now conflicted. Should I save this relationship or should I let it go?

– Arrangements