This isn’t a “men vs. women” thing. Some people like to keep records of their personal history, some don’t.

Many people want to be able to see visual proof of moments in their lives – because their story goes way beyond one life partner.

It’d be one thing if she opened the albums and stared at them longingly for hours every week. But if the pictures are just there, in a closet, next to high school yearbooks, it fine.

And yeah, there is an emotional connection. But it’s old news. 

Life didn’t begin with your marriage. Your wife can be madly in love with you and still have her own narrative, with fond (and complicated) memories of all of it.

The older I get, the more I cherish evidence of what I’ve experienced. 

Let the items stay tucked. Give her space to preserve her past. 

– Meredith

Readers? Do you have pictures of exes? Where do you keep them? Do you wish you’d saved some you threw out or deleted? Do you care if a partner keeps pictures of past loves?

I’d love to read your question. Send your own letter by using the anonymous form or email [email protected]. Let’s start a new season with a fresh look on everything.