Dazzled By A Younger Woman

Wednesday | December 31, 2014

Love Letters Marriage

Dazzled By A Younger Woman

Be safe tonight. Thank you for a good year.

I’ve been recently dazzled by a younger woman.

I’m happily married and shouldn’t entertain this, right?

I was shocked by my reaction to this woman. I saw her at a recent social event and couldn’t help telling her how beautiful she was. Over the course of the evening I did so a few times, and she seemed to have taken the compliment approvingly since she did approach me on the dance floor with an inviting gesture. I held her just for a moment before her boyfriend broke it off.

We weren’t drunk. She has a boyfriend. I’m married and probably a decade older. Would it be terrible for me so reach out for her? Send her a clearly-sober note reiterating my comments or saying I hope I wasn’t inappropriate?

Is a grown-up affair/relationship something only for characters in French movies?

– First Sight

I’m happily married and shouldn’t entertain this, right? Right.

“… she seemed to have taken the compliment approvingly since she did approach me on the dance floor with an inviting gesture.” I wish you had explained the gesture. But I will use my imagination.

Would it be terrible for me so reach out for her? Yes.

Send her a clearly-sober note reiterating my comments or saying I hope I wasn’t inappropriate? Nope. The note would be inappropriate.

Is a grown-up affair/relationship something only for characters in French movies? Doesn’t matter. You’re not living in a movie. You’re allowed to have a fantasy or two about this woman, and it’s fine to feel flattered and dazzled. But you’re supposed to put that positive energy back into your marriage. That’s how it works.

Readers? Should he reach out?

– Meredith

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