I am 35. I have been married just over a year. We have been together for eight years, but did split for a while about three years ago and then got back together. 

Things seemed good, we got married, and then my husband changed back to his old ways again, which was the reason we split before. He would lie, hide things, be very sarcastic, gaslight and blame everyone else for his actions, spend a lot of our money on his bad habits, and ignore my feelings and show no respect. 

After about four months of marriage I found out he was sexting women he met online, and he didn’t have much to say about it.

When I get upset and end up crying, he ignores me. He demands yes-or-no answers from me, rather than me answering questions the way I would normally. He has become worse since I found out about the cheating. I honestly think he is narcissistic and that he needs help, as he always blames his mother for the way he behaves, or says he doesn’t know why he does these things. 

I am lost with it all and don’t know what to do anymore. He seems to think that I should just forget all his behavior and stop complaining, yet he shows no empathy or guilt or even love and respect for me. I told him he never shows me any respect and his response was “I show it sometimes.” Is that really a good answer? He has put me through so much over the last eight years. I’m feeling like I don’t see him the same anymore and I’m fed up.

Thank you any advice would be appreciated as I feel like I’m going crazy.

– Lost