Maybe you shouldn’t push yourself to do the right thing.

Instead, you could wait until you hit a wall, and then the next steps might come naturally.

This letter seems to be a big first step toward giving up on this unrequited love affair. You’re getting sick of this routine, and you put your feelings on paper – to me.

In a month or two, you might be extra annoyed with your status quo. Even bored. That would be great.

Of course you don’t want to wait forever to get over this, but sometimes it takes time to see a love affair for what it is. Eventually, after enough waiting around, exciting, fraught romances can start to look very dull – because nothing is actually happening. In your case, local, single people are so much more interesting!

If you put less pressure on yourself to stop what you’re doing as soon as possible, you might have more energy to notice what you’re missing.