I’m writing today about a new relationship. We met online and had a really nice first date, but problems for me included his really sloppy body (I don’t have high standards, but legit man boobs are not a sexy look).

The next day I ended things, but I kept thinking about our connection. I ended up getting in touch with him again and we’ve hung out a few times. We do have great chemistry and he’s super nice to me — I’ve never had anyone treat me as kindly as he does. I think my fears stem from how into me he is (what a problem, right?) and his appearance. These are two totally ridiculous things, but are constantly on my mind.

Should I be trying to focus on how caring and funny he is instead of thinking about how our lifestyles don’t match up all of the way? I wouldn’t even call myself a vain or superficial person, but as an athlete, health and wellness are extremely important to me. Any help or insight you could provide me would be greatly appreciated!

– Help