My live-in boyfriend of several years won’t move across the country for me if I go to grad school on the West Coast. He was ready to propose, but I am studying to apply for grad programs at many schools, most of which will force us to leave New England and relocate to a new city. He doesn’t want to go with me and leave his life here, but he wants to support me in going to grad school wherever it’s best for me.

We’re still living together, but we are in this weird limbo. He has said he will do anything to make this relationship work – except move all the way across the country. We don’t want to break up and are still living together. I almost moved out to get space, and we were going to take a break, but then, all of a sudden, he’s has had this change of heart and said he’d do anything to make this work. I’m confused about whether I should be living with someone who doesn’t really want to move with me, even though he knows we could end up breaking up.

– Moving