Wish I Had Talked To Her At The Wedding

Monday | September 18, 2017

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Wish I Had Talked To Her At The Wedding

A couple of months ago, I went to a cousin’s wedding. I saw a beautiful woman there who seemed incredible – but I was too shy to talk to her or ask her to dance, even though I really wanted to. The embarrassing part: I found her on Facebook. Again, I never talked to this woman, and I doubt she remembers seeing me at this wedding. I was wondering how weird it would be to send her a message on Facebook. Is that something I definitely shouldn’t do? I don’t want to come off as a creep, but I have not been able to stop thinking about her for the last couple of months.

This has never happened to me. I’m at the point where I feel like I have to know if she would ever go out with me. I mean, the answer is going to be no unless I ask her, right? At this point, I don’t even care if she says no … I just want to know. I don’t think I’m a bad looking guy. I’m pretty tall and athletic, and I have a good job. I swear I’m not the cocky type or the type to go around bragging about that kind of stuff. I was raised to be humble, and I think that’s why I tend to be pretty quiet and reserved around people I don’t know.

I don’t know how else to get in contact with her because I don’t want to ask my cousin for help. We’re not very close, and I don’t really want anyone else to know about this. I would appreciate any opinions on this, especially from a woman’s perspective.

– Reaching Out

I don’t think it would be creepy to reach out. You can explain that you saw her at the wedding and didn’t get the chance to say hello. As long as you keep it casual, it’s OK.

I do wonder whether you should friend her on Facebook first. Maybe if she sees your mutual connections (assuming you have at least one), she’ll be more likely to find the message and respond. You don’t want to wind up in a junk folder. (I’m hoping commenters have thoughts on this.)

Before you do anything, though, remind yourself that this woman is a stranger. Even if she responds, she’s not going to match whatever fantasy you’ve created about the person you saw on the dance floor. Keep your expectations in check.

Also know that if this woman is close to your cousin at all, she’ll probably call to find out more about you. You won’t be able to keep the Facebook message a secret, so it might be worth keeping your family in the loop. Good references can be very helpful.

– Meredith

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