Hi Meredith,

I met a guy three months ago online. He said he was kind of crazy about me. He lives in NYC, and I live in Boston. Because he is busy, he asked me to visit him many times. When I went to NYC, we stayed at a hotel. He never invited me to his apartment – and I never asked to see it. But every time he comes to Boston, he requests to come to my place. But because I haven’t seen his place, I tell him he can’t come over because of my roommate.

He eventually became angry with me because of this – he said it was rude. I reminded him that I’ve never been to his apartment. He said, “If you want to, sure, you can come over.” But when I went to NYC, I was at the hotel again, and he couldn’t even stay the night with me. His excuse was, “I have to get up early to prepare for a breakfast meeting.” I was not happy about this. Can’t you prepare while you sleep over?

Plus, he said he needed to change clothes, but why wouldn’t he just take me home? His response was that he didn’t want to make me feel unsafe, going to a stranger’s home. This is so confusing to me. Is he playing games with me? Should I keep contact with him? I am really into him. And he said I’m the only girl he’s seeing.

– Only Girl