First, don’t move back in with him. It’s not a healthy living situation; you’d be better off living with family, friends, or random roommates.

Second, yes, you make a great case for leaving this relationship now – because the volatility of has led to abuse. The two of you might rebound from fights with apologies and big romance, but that’s not a pattern you want to continue. It sounds like you need space from this relationship to see what it’s really done to your life.

It’s not about quitting while you’re ahead; this is about letting go to take care of yourself.

Please know that if you have questions about abuse or concerns your safety, you can call this number to talk about it. You can also ask those people about services in your area – places where you can talk about your relationship.

It would also help – no matter what you decide to do about your boyfriend – to see a counselor about how relationships work, in general. You can talk to a therapist about the experience you’ve had for seven months – and about how you communicate with your mother. If you don’t know how to find a therapist, you can start by asking your doctor. Also, again, that hotline has resources.

It can takes work to learn how to be in a healthy relationship. You could benefit from instruction and time to think. Please consider space for that. This stuff is difficult to figure out when you’re in the middle of it. Let go to get better.

– Meredith

Readers? Can this LW get healthier about relationships while still in this one?