Will He Get Better With Age?

Wednesday | June 22, 2016

Love Letters Dating

Will He Get Better With Age?

Hi,

My boyfriend and I are in a very complicated relationship – a long-distance one. He’s in America and I’m in Australia. However, that isn’t my problem. My boyfriend is 17 and I just turned 18. When I met him, he seemed really mature to me, and at times he still does. However, I see he has a lot of growing up to do, and I mean a lot. We often disagree about gender equality, racism, and political issues. I don’t like his stance on prominent issues around the world.

Will my boyfriend mature? Will he be able to see things for the way they are and not speak like a brainwashed teenager? I mean, I keep telling myself he’ll change, he’ll grow older, and with age comes intelligence, but I don’t know. What if I keep waiting and end up wasting my time?

– Waiting for him to grow up

You must evaluate partners as they are now, even at 18. It’s not about what they might be later – in many, many, many years. That’s just relationship fanfiction.

At the moment, your guy lives on the other side of the world. His beliefs make you angry, and you want him to be someone else. If you don’t want to waste your time, you must leave him behind.

Also know that if you boyfriend lived in Australia, I’d still be telling you to break up with him. Maturity doesn’t always bring a shift in beliefs. He could become a super grownup and oppose everything you stand for. Don’t expect age and intelligence to turn him into someone who thinks like you.

– Meredith

Readers? Help this young reader.

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