Hi, Meredith. Longtime lurker. I met a woman at a Halloween party. Never got her number but was able to track down an e-mail. We went out for drinks and I had a good time with her, and suggested we get together the next week for another date. I texted but didn’t hear anything back until a week later, and we made plans again. She said she was a bad texter.

This time we went bowling and it was a lot of fun. I texted again a few days later and didn’t hear back until about a week later. We were both out and she suggested I meet her at a party even though she had to get up early for a flight. She was headed to a work conference the next day, and would be gone for two weeks. When she left the party, I said we should go out again. She agreed but explained the two-week absence and busy schedule.

While she was away, I gave her a call to see if she wanted to make plans for when she got back, specifically taking her out to dinner. I haven’t heard anything since. Do I call again since it’s after the holidays and things may have died down? Or just let it go and take the silence as a signal? My friends are split on whether another call is worth a shot. Patience is not my strong suit.

Was I ghosted? Are these the perils of modern dating?

– Ghosted