A.

“Can you actually have healthy conversations around that, can you respect the other person’s opinions even if they are not reflected in your own, and can you have a fulfilling relationship with someone?”

Sure? Sure.

In theory.

But … four and eight years ago, I read a lot of letters from people in long marriages who were trying to make it work, even though they’d lost respect for their partners. Even though they felt unseen by their partners.

Those letters were usually from people who had a decade or more of love and good memories to lean on. Still, they were struggling.

In your case, it’s so new – and we’re heading into an election. Do you want to have these conversations … frequently? Do you want to be in a relationship with someone who wants a certain kind of world?

My advice is to ask him what you asked me: “How can you still support this man?” If you’re satisfied with his answer, great. If he asks you why you don’t support this man and really wants to listen and hear you out, wonderful.

If you don’t like the answer, move on. I suspect you won’t like it.

Honestly, this whole letter is about dating fatigue more than anything else. You’re not feeling chemistry with most people. Maybe that means you need to give people a Date 4 instead of just three.

I’d rather have a slow burn with someone than great energy but no shared values.

You don’t have to lower your bar for company just because dating is difficult. Making do with what you’ve found isn’t a great way to add something wonderful to your life.

– Meredith