I Thought I Saw Him Check Her Out

Friday | August 19, 2016

Love Letters Dating

I Thought I Saw Him Check Her Out

Hi Meredith,

I have found the man of my dreams. We both have hectic pasts, but they have molded us into the strong people we are today.

My boyfriend and I work together (I know, not recommended, but I’m quitting to pursue my graduate degree soon), and he hooked up with a few people in the office prior to my being employed by our company. He doesn’t talk to any women from his past except one – all they did was kiss, but their friendship makes me extremely uncomfortable. She is a beautiful and fun woman, and she becomes friends with anyone she meets. He has told me in the past that there are no romantic feelings between them and he sees her like a sister (their sexual tension was three or four years ago). My problem is that I thought I saw him check her out the other day and I’m not sure if I should address it … or whether he’s just being a man? I know for a fact they wouldn’t ever cross that boundary again, and I know for a fact he wouldn’t ever cheat on me.

– coworker love triangle

This isn’t a “coworker love triangle.” You’re in a relationship, and you think you saw your boyfriend admire another woman. You’re not sure it happened, but even if it did … who cares? People notice each other all the time.

Don’t bring it up, because addressing the possible check-out won’t lead to any great conversation. If you know your boyfriend won’t cross boundaries, you should let it go.

For the record, the man of your dreams probably doesn’t see this woman as a sister, but that’s OK. You’re attracted to other men, too. You’ll probably feel better about all of this once you leave the office and start your graduate degree. Then you won’t have to watch him all day.

– Meredith

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