I met this guy on a dating app. He messaged me first and asked to meet for drinks. I’m 23, he’s 28.

After going to a restaurant, we sat in his car talking for five hours. He didn’t try anything physical. Two weeks later, we went out on our second date. We walked around downtown, again chatting for several hours. We kissed that night, both of us nervous to initiate, but he stepped up to the plate.

After a few more dates, I tried to add him on social media, but a google search pulled up wedding registries and pictures. I was shocked and texted him. He explained that he was married and separated, and that it was likely leading to a divorce. I was hurt but I had already fallen for this man; it all happened so fast. I ignored the moral problems and said I’d continue seeing him.

I met up with him and brought him dinner, and he ate it in his car while talking about his soon-to-be ex-wife and how horrible she was. I caught on to his indecisiveness and flipped. That night I snatched my tupperware away from him. I told him to stop leading me on. He apologized and things were OK for a few days, but but shortly after, he told me it wouldn’t work.

He’s everything I ever wanted. How do I move on? How do I fix what I destroyed?

– Destroyed