Slept With A Co-worker

Friday | July 17, 2015

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Slept With A Co-worker

I think I made a BIG mistake. I am 32 and have been at the same job for a long time. Someone I have worked with for four years now approached me a while ago for “relationship advice” regarding his live-in girlfriend of seven years. I confess that I had been attracted to him over the years but considered him “taken.”

Somehow (I know this is where I should take responsibility) we ended up essentially dating each other after he said he was effectively finished with her, but they were still living together. And then we slept together. Which is a big deal to me but seems like it is much less so to him. Then suddenly he stopped all non-work communication with me and that was that. This happened in April and we are both in our same jobs, which require multiple daily professional exchanges in shared spaces with other co-workers. I am left confused, hurt, and angry at having been treated this way. Short of job searching, how do I handle this hurt?

– Big Mistake

Focus on your after-work life as much as possible. If you have great plans at night and things to look forward to, your social interactions in the office won’t mean so much.

Unfortunately, this is one of those fake-it-till-you-make-it situations. You just have to get through each day, try to smile, and hope that it gets easier over time.

I won’t lecture you about sleeping with a guy who was still living with a girlfriend. I won’t tell you that you have to be more careful with your heart. I will tell you, though, that when someone comes to you for “relationship advice,” you probably shouldn’t try to date them. That’s my rule, at least.

Readers? How can she deal with the aftermath of this mistake?

– Meredith

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u0022How many times do I have to say this?nnDON’T DATE OR HOOKUP WITH SOMEONE WITH WHOM YOU WORK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!nnAre you listening, millennials?u0022 – AlntNobodyGotTime

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