Should I Take Him Back?

Tuesday | September 13, 2016

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Should I Take Him Back?

I recently called it off with my boyfriend. We were only together for four months, and most of the time we had a lot of fun. About a month ago, right before we were supposed to go on vacation, he got mad at me about something he did not explain and threw a glass of water in my face. I kicked him out of my apartment and canceled the vacation.

An hour later he apologized, said it would never happen again, and we went on vacation and had a wonderful time. Last weekend, he was mad again about something he did not explain. He sent a bunch of passive aggressive text messages throughout the day, which I ignored. He stormed into my apartment at 2 a.m., drunk, screaming at me, and calling me horrible names. It took me two hours to get him to leave, and he only left by storming out when I broke off our relationship.

Since then, he’s called everyday. I don’t know what to do since I do still care about him, but I’m worried those aren’t two isolated events, but what he would be like whenever he gets mad. Should I pick up the phone and take him back?

– Try Again?

Do not take him back. The good times (and one good vacation) do not make up for his abusive behavior.

I’d give the same advice if only one of those incidents had happened, by the way. Having water thrown in your face at the start of what’s supposed to be happy relationship is reason enough to bail. Meanwhile, incident two is a deal-breaker, isn’t it? This man has shown you how he deals with conflict, and you don’t want any part of it.

I know it can be tempting to remember the fun and to have hope, but you’ve had a lot of misery in four months. Ignore his texts because they only lead to more of the same.

– Meredith

Readers? Another try?

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