Should I date more people at once?

Tuesday | December 3, 2024

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Should I date more people at once?

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Hi Meredith,

I’m 54, divorced five years, and have done a lot of dating recently (after ending a two-plus year relationship). I started dating a guy I like about a month ago. We haven’t talked about being exclusive yet, which is fine. I’m not in any rush. I have gotten too attached out of the gate before and then things crashed and burned.

My question: Should I continue to date just the guy that I’m seeing or try to juggle dating others as well? I am still on Match and am fortunate to have a lot of potential options. However, my time and energy is somewhat limited. Dating more than one person feels like a lot. Thoughts? Thanks.

– It’s Raining Men

You can date one person without an agreement of exclusivity. It’s also possible to date that one person without being serious about them.

This is about your time, energy, and priorities. If you want to spend your free hours working, doing hobbies, and hanging out with friends, that’s great.

I’m not sure that lining up a bunch of dates will prevent you from becoming too attached anyway. If anything, investing in the activities you love should remind you how great you are on your own, no matter what happens.

If you feel like scrolling through some apps at night, that’s great. If not, that’s OK, too.

“I’m not in any rush.” That’s the mantra – or one of them, at least. You’re having a nice time and want to see how it plays out. No pressure to juggle.

– Meredith

Readers? Do you find that dating more than one person helps you make better connections?

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If your time and energy allows…go for it. … You want to insure the quality of your experiences and not feel like you’re watching the clock and/or exhausted.

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